I am an Arab. I am a Middle Easterner. There isn’t much to be proud of (apart from the glorious history we have). We Arabs are good at nothing but brag about our past. Those in the gulf brag about their limited-edition cars, gadgets, mansions, women, and the list goes on. But what about the rest of us Arabs? What about Palestinians who are denied the most needed and internationally recognized rights? What about Iraqis? Killed and slaughtered around the clock? Yemenis who are going through their fourteenth Friday this time marking the longest yet most peaceful revolution so far? Arab spring is something we Arabs brag about too.
Then again, the narrow-minded complicated sex-driven all-time-bragging human beings occupying the Middle East are so terrible at judging, thinking, doing most if not everything. And there are a lot of stories that never fail to prove how narrow minded a lot of Middle Easterners are.
A divorced woman, for example, is being looked at as if she is why the marriage failed and leaded to divorce. Think for a moment please. Why can’t it be the man? What if the man was impotent and his wife is not happy with him? What if the man is “too much of a man” for her and I mean being a control freak with his endless dos and don’ts? Why can’t be the man the core of not only this problem, but many, many other problems too?
Why is a divorced woman is being looked at like if she’s a bad person? What has she done wrong if it’s not written for her to spend the rest of her life with the same man? Stop and think before you act.
Then again, comes the narrow-minded full-of-empty-pride Middle Easterner. Oh wait! Not only that but, we are Arabs too! (ya habibi!) okay let me give it to you slowly. Say an Arab guy finds the perfect woman whom he’d want to spend the rest of his life with but there’s one little problem. She’s Pakistani/Afghan/Asian. Arab guy tells his parents. Arab parents get pissed and angry because she’s not Arab. Arab guy is sad. Arab guy isn’t married to the girl of his dreams. WHY? “She’s not Arab, son.” They’d ALL reply.
Let me just make something clear. Don’t we ALL (the majority) have the have religion, traditions, family rules, history in common? Those in the Arabian Gulf will NEVER marry one from Asia. She has to be either from the same country or white. Gulf guy has a lot of money, a fleet of brand new cars, a couple of oil wells, a few mansions here and there across the map. But what about the rest? I tell you why. It’s because we Arabs think that nothing beats it than an Arab woman. I agree to an extent but what IF the girl of your dreams happened to be Asian? Would you just move on and say “No man forget it. She’s not Arab and my parents would never agree on this marriage”
Girls in the Middle East, or Arab girls to be specific, are raised up to the goal that they grow up to get married. Arab girl grows up. Arab girl is married. Arab girl has a bunch of babies and she’s in her early twenties. Why educate the girl and spend a lot of money on educating her while she is going to end up in the kitchen serving a dozen of kids and a sex-hungry husband? Poor Arab girl isn’t educated thus her kids aren’t well educated.
What if we grow our kids up by sheltering them from the world? Do you know what could happen? You’ll have grown young men and women who know nothing in the world. So naïve, unable to socialize with other people. Stupid parents thought that sheltering them is for the better. They only realize how much bad they have done to their kids only twenty years later.
Why can’t we cut the crap and live normally? Why are we racist even when it comes to the little things? Why can’t someone from the city marry a girl from the village and/or vice versa? Why can’t an Arab marry an Afghan? Why do we Arabs become happy and proud when one of us gets married to a white woman regardless of the fact that she’s not of the same religion the guy is?
It is really sad how racist this world has become. We are racist even when it comes getting married. She/he can’t be of another tribe or he/she can’t be from the village/city and/or vice versa? This is even amongst the people of the same country. We’re all human beings after all and neither money nor color will decide the fate of anyone.
Cut the crap and stop being a racist.
Look, evaluate, think, think again, then speak/act.
Note: This is out of what I have been reading and hearing for ages. No personal experience herein at all.